Good evening, As festivities are upon us, and everyone is counting down to Christmas with their advent calendars, I can’t help but feel excited. I, however, like to do things a little differently. Let me introduce you to 12 days of orgasms, my unique calendar designed to give you something extra to be joyful about this holiday season.
A little bit about orgasms
I cannot guarantee that all 12 techniques will bring you to the brink of orgasm, but they will certainly help you learn something new about your body - and you’ll have a lot of fun along the way.
After all, the beauty of an orgasm is that there is no one-size-fits all - everybody responds differently to various techniques - which makes discovering something new all the more special.
You might have never orgasmed before, or think you’ve already found the perfect recipe. But there is a whole variety of orgasm types for you to experience, a number of which might become your new best friend.
I firmly believe that the key to a better a sex life is understanding what does - and does not - make your body tick. So hopefully my calendar will help you discover new sensations and intensify familiar ones.
How it works
It doesn’t matter if you’ve been naughty or nice - this Christmas treat is suitable for all adults, whether you’re going solo or enjoying it with a partner.
I have gathered techniques from OMGYes and Climax, who dedicate their time to researching the science of female pleasure. And I have thrown in some of my own wild cards for good measure. You can download my calendar here and check them off each day.
I also welcome you to get creative with this alternative blank calendar - where you’re in complete control. This is perfect to add in those intriguing moves you’ve always wanted to try, or to adapt my techniques for male pleasure.
Let the countdown begin...
On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me… edging
Edging is a term coined by OMGYes, with 70% of women claiming this technique gives them longer and more intense orgasms. It is also known as ‘orgasm denial’. It is where you bring yourself close to climax but then suddenly stop. You can achieve this through clitoral stimulation, where you ‘stop and go’ several times until you have no choice but to give into temptation.
If you find stopping completely doesn’t work for you, I recommend lightly stimulating a different part of your body in between build-ups.
If you want to combine this technique with a toy, try using the Lelo Mia 2 bullet vibrator.
On the second day of Christmas my true love gave to me… massage
A romantic massage can go a long way. Consider activating different erogenous zones to see what you and your partner respond to.
If you want to add a toy into the mix, this wand vibrator can be used anywhere on the body for a deep, sensual massage, as well as being able to deliver an earth-shattering orgasm afterwards. You can read more about wand vibrators here.
On the third day of Christmas my true love gave to me… consistency
Keep it simple today and see how pleasure builds up using constant motion. For many people, keeping the stimulation consistent is their go-to method for an orgasm. This technique works well paired with a vibrator that can be kept on the same speed until you reach climax.
The We-Vibe Nova 2 will help you build up a consistent speed, and also features 10 vibration modes for you to experiment with.
On the fourth day of Christmas my true love gave to me… framing
This technique can be helpful if you are struggling to reach orgasm. The theory behind framing is that if you're spending all your time thinking about having an orgasm, then it's impossible to get one.
Instead, framing encourages you to turn off distracting self-conscious thoughts. One way to do this is to set a timer for a predetermined amount of time and only focus on your pleasure (that means you're not allowed to reciprocate, make noises or orgasm).
OMGYes research has shown that sex is more to do with the mind than it is the body. 90% of women use ‘mental’ framing to conjure scenarios in their head to get aroused. So, if you are part of that percentage, I also recommend you try an app called Dispea. It is filled with short audio stories guaranteed to let your mind unwind.
On the fifth day of Christmas my true love gave to me… orbiting and accenting
Two other techniques that OMGYes recommend are orbiting and accenting, the first of which 60% of women use. Orbiting is the practice of making a circular motion around your clitoris. This can be in circles, ovals or figure eights - whichever feels best for you.
Once you discover your favourite orbiting motion, you can try accenting, which is where you change the pressure at certain points - such as applying more pressure on a circular motion between three and six o’clock.
This can be achieved with your fingers or you can spice things up with a sex toy like this Rocks-Off Bullet Vibrator.
On the sixth day of Christmas my true love gave to me… hinting
This technique isn't actually about the orgasm at all (sex can be wonderful without). Hinting is about making the body beg for more. It is often used as a foreplay technique where you stimulate everything but the clitoris. Instead, use a light touch over sensitive areas nearby, or other erogenous zones that make you melt inside.
Combine this technique with a blindfold to really heighten the sense of your partner’s touch.
On the seventh day of Christmas my true love gave to me… the G spot
The elusive G spot can be difficult to locate, but it is not impossible. Start by relaxing your body, then gently insert your fingers (or a toy) inside your vagina. Using your fingers or chosen sex toy, try making a 'come hither' (rather than an in-and-out) motion. You are not looking for a special button - just keep moving the fingers and wait for the sensation to build up.
Alternatively, I recommend purchasing a G spot vibrator, which targets the area with impressive accuracy.
Or, if you are looking for the male G spot, try one of our prostate massagers.
On the eighth day of Christmas my true love gave to me… BDSM play
If you did make it onto the naughty list this year, and fancy trying some light BDSM play, then spanking is a good place to start. You can even receive your spanking in style with our S&M Enchanted Heart Paddle.
Although BDSM can seem intimidating thanks to its portrayal in certain books and Hollywood films, it has actually been claimed to be the safest kind of sex you can have. This is because everyone involved needs to communicate their desires and boundaries from the offset. I strongly advise reading up on BDSM for beginners before diving in at the deep end.
On the ninth day of Christmas my true love gave to me… waterproof toys
For this day, think about a change of scenery. If you usually find pleasure in the bedroom, why not switch it up to the bathroom? Draw yourself a warm bath, or move things to the shower. And whether you're going solo or splashing around with a partner, I advise introducing a waterproof toy to the mix - you definitely won’t regret it.
On the tenth day of Christmas my true love gave to me… multiples
Today, I challenge you to try multiples. OMGYes state that almost 50% of women are able to achieve multiple orgasms - no, they’re not a myth! They happen when you overcome the sensitivity of the first orgasm to rebuild additional orgasms afterwards.
This is usually achieved by using a different set of techniques that you know your body responds to. Alternatively, you can reach these sensational moments with our Lelo Soraya 2 Rabbit Vibrator, which stimulates both the clitoris and vagina at once.
On the eleventh day of Christmas my true love gave to me… roleplay
This is an excellent way to encourage communication between you and your partner, and to discover if you have any unspoken fantasies that can become a reality in the bedroom.
Roleplaying can be a lot of fun, and the possibilities are endless - in fact it might be a bit overwhelming for some, so here is a list of ideas to get you started.
On the twelfth day of Christmas my true love gave to me… a surprise
According to OMGYes, the surprise technique is all about ‘defying expectation to enhance pleasure’. This final day is the perfect time to reflect on what you’ve discovered about yourself or a partner. But see if you can change things up or combine different techniques to keep the body guessing.
If you want to add some extra spice, I recommend our build-your-own orgasmic collection of sex toys. You can hand pick a favourite to surprise a loved one and keep them on their toes.
I hope you enjoy trying out some new techniques and revisiting old favourites this Christmas. Don’t forget to get in touch and let us know what you discovered!