There is a lot of mystery surrounding the G-spot, whether it exists, how it is supposed to feel and where to find it. Articles on the internet claim that everyone can have a G-spot orgasm and toxic culture may have falsely convinced you that G-spot orgasms are more valid than clitoral ones. Yet only 6% of females can orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone.
The reality is that there is no 'right' way to experience pleasure, in fact did you know that there are over 12 known ways for women to reach climax and at least 7 for men? The beauty of the orgasm is that there is no one size fits all, we react and experience everything differently to each other. This is what makes exploring our bodies even more fun, but is also the reason why it can be difficult to get a grasp on elusive erogenous zones such as the G-spot.
Today we will be discussing the highly sought after G-spot orgasm in both women and men, and ways in which you can intensify your pleasure through the exploration of this area.
What is the G-spot?
The G-spot in both men and women is considered to be an erogenous zone that causes sexual pleasure when touched. It is reported that stimulating this area leads to stronger, better and more intense orgasms including female ejaculation in women.
The G-spot isn't named after the 'Grion', but instead author, Ernest Grafenberg, who first speculated about a highly "erotic zone" in females back in 1950s and this zone later became the focus of a popular book about human sexuality in 80s.
The G-spot in cisgender women and those assigned female at birth is said to exist on the front wall of your vagina, close to the belly button, about halfway between the vagina opening and cervix. It isn't really a specific spot but an area of various tissues that when aroused can feel firm, slightly bumpy or spongey and is highly sensitive like the clitoris. Although you cannot see it, you can feel the area through your vagina by inserting your fingers and pressing forward in a 'come-here' motion. Some claim that it swells when aroused much like penile tissue.
For cisgender men and those who are assigned male at birth, the g-spot (or p-spot if you prefer!) can be physically found in the prostate, a walnut-sized organ in your rectum. It's about two inches in the rectum toward the belly. This muscular gland produces sperm and is surrounded by a large bundle of sensitive nerve endings that feel awfully good when touched and reported to produce intense full-body orgasms much stronger than penile ones.
Myths surrounding the G-spot
The area of the vagina in which the G-spot is said to be located appears to be no different anatomically than the rest of the vagina, there is not more nerve tissue concentrated in the area than others., as a result this has led to a lot of debate over its existence.
There are a lot of sex myths out there, and the existence of the female G-spot has led to a lot of debate, with only 51.1% of women being able to locate it. The scientific community is unsure if this sensation is physical, muscular, vascular, a neurological feature or just fantasy.
This is due to the lack of anatomical evidence of the G-spot - the area of the vagina in which the G-spot is said to be located appears to be no different anatomically than the rest of the vagina, there is not more nerve tissue concentrated in the area than others.
But even though there is no physical evidence, women still report increased sensitivity in this area. A study on 800 women, found that 72% reported increased erotic feelings when the area on the anterior vaginal wall was stimulated as opposed to other areas in the vagina.
Therefore the problem of the g-spot lies in trying to attach it to an anatomical structure, and instead the above study has renamed the G-spot as the "hypereroticism area or 'h' area, and refers to it as a pleasurable experience rather than a concrete physical entity.
One speculation is that the Skene glands (the female prostate) is responsible for the G-area sensitivity and female ejaculation. These glands vary dramatically in size from woman to woman and may not exist in all women which would explain why not everyone experiences a g-spot orgasm.
Another theory is that the G-spot is part of a network of pleasure hot spots connected to the clitoris. The clitoris has been likened to an iceberg, and the inner clitoris is believed to envelope the urethra with erectile stimulation-sensitive tissue that can create a G-spot area.
Even if the G-spot does not exist as a physical entity in females, it is definitely something you can still experience, you might end up discovering it accidentally or maybe you need a bit of exploration to help you get there.
Female G-spot orgasms
The female G-spot is complex and beautiful, and the best way to discover if you have a sensitive 'h area' or a 'G-spot' is through some good old exploration! The goal of this exploration is to relax and figure out what feels good and what doesn't. If you can't find the 'G-spot' straight away don't get discouraged - it may help to introduce external stimulation as well as internal. We recommend you try the following:
"Come-here" motion for accessing the G-spot
The simplest way to find your G-spot, either by yourself or with the help of a partner, is with a finger. Make sure you're already aroused and the finger in question is clean and lubed up before inserting it, palm up, into the vagina. Using the pad of your finger to test out different strokes against your vagina wall, you don't need to reach too deep in, but feel around for a firm, bumpy or spongey area. To locate the sensitive area, see if you react to a stroking action, such as ones you enjoy on your clitoris or try a "come-here" motion.
If you feel the urge to pee it is because the G-spot puts some pressure onto your bladder - this can either be a pleasurable or uncomfortable sensation. If it's uncomfortable next time, try peeing beforehand so you feel more relaxed.
Sex positions to stimulate female G-spots
If your partner has a penis or a strap-on, and want to hit the G-spot through penetrative sex the key is lube and proper positioning. You need to try positions that will put pressure on the front wall of your vagina, for this I recommend variations of doggy style and cowgirl. If you try cowgirl lean back slightly at a 45 degree angle, or alternatively try reverse cowgirl. By being on top you can be in complete control of speed, depth, and positioning to help locate the right spot.
If you find that you've mastered the G-spot orgasm with ease, why not try and have an A-spot orgasm next?
G-spot sex toys for women
The easiest way to hit the holy grail of orgasms is through toys! It is thought that a lot of people need extra pressure on the vaginal wall to achieve a G-spot orgasm, and luckily there are a lot of sex toys designed specifically to do just that.
If the theory that outer clitoris stimulation helps activate the g-spot is right, then you might want to combine an external vibrator with penetrative sex. You can also invest in vibrators that are specifically designed to reach the G-spot like the Je joue G Spot Bullet Vibrator, or a rabbit vibrator. Rabbit vibrators come with two prongs, one to stimulate the external clitoris and interal g-spot can be stimulated at the same time. We recommend the Rocks-off Everygirl rabbit vibrator or Lelo Soraya 2.
If you want to try something a bit different this Womanizer Duo toy uses pleasure air technology on the clitoris combined with g-spot stimulation. There are also dildos designed to contact the spot to allow you to find the angle that works just for you. These can be handy if you find the vibrations too over-stimulating.
Male G-spot orgasms
It is common for men to be wary of trying out a G-spot orgasm, but those who have tried it state they have never felt anything so good, as it leads to an all over tingly sensation like no other. Recently, sales of prostate massagers have been on the rise by 56%, particularly among straight men over the age of 45 - so if you're curious about anal play, you're definitely not alone! If you want to explore the male G-spot the following may help:
Manual G-spot stimulation for men
To access your G-spot with fingers, it firstly helps if you lay on your back with your butt under a pillow and hips tilted. Make sure you and/or your partner's hands are clean. Then you can begin to gently massage the perineum which is located between the testicles and anus.
As the anus does not self-lubricate you should always use lube before inserting anything into it. If putting something in your rectum hurts the key is to slow down and add more lube. If you feel uncomfortable applying lube with fingers you can try a syringe-like applicator called a lube shooter.
To internally massage the prostate, insert a lubed up finger into your rectum towards the belly button, you don't have to go too far in, maybe about 2 inches before you are able to feel and massage your prostate.
G-spot sex toys for men
Stimulating your prostate, is the quickest way to an anal orgasm, and this can be achieved with the help of sex toys. It is important to put hygiene and comfort first and know how to clean them safely.
To begin with you might want to start with a butt plug to get used to the feeling. Our Rocks-off Ibex Butt Plug is flared at the bottom for safe anal play, is 100% waterproof and comes with a removeable vibrator if you want to turn the pleasure dial up a notch.
Once you're comfortable with using toys for anal play, you might want to take it to the next level with prostate massagers. These toys are specifically designed differently in order to reach the male G-spot. We recommend opting for one with a tail or wide base to ensure it doesn't get stuck up there, avoid using toys without a base or designed for vaginas as these are likely to get lost in the anus. Our go-to is the Rocks-off Falex prostate massager, a stimulator with a curved tip to reach the 'P-spot' and flared base to keep it safe.
The search for the sensitive G-spot may require some patience and luck, but even if you don't find it you're guaranteed to enhance your sense of comfort, closeness and intimacy in the process! Let me know about your experiences with you or your partner's G-spot.