Kegel balls are fast becoming a must-have item. Their benefits are far-reaching and could actually change your life. Not only are they a great way to improve your sexual experiences, they can hugely benefit your long-term health and give you more confidence.
What are Kegel balls?
They’re basically tiny dumb-bells for your vagina. Kegel balls - sometimes called Ben Wa balls, orgasm balls, rin-no-tama, Venus balls or Geisha balls - are small silicone balls that are inserted into the vagina to cause stimulation, and also to exercise the pelvic floor muscle. Many are hollow, with spherical weights inside that create a vibrating sensation when jiggled. They all feature a tail that allows easy and safe removal.
Kegel balls are available in various weights, allowing you to grade up as your muscles become stronger over time. There are also a range of sizes available, from small single balls to larger dual-ball designs.
While inside the vagina, a muscle called the pubococcygeus flexes to hold the ball in place, which results, for many, in sexual arousal and helps tone the muscle at the same time.
Important! Kegel balls are not suitable for anal play. Only use objects that are specifically designed for anal insertion in your bottom!
Why your pelvic floor matters
The pubococcygeus muscle is a hammock-shaped muscle that stretches from the pubic bone to the tailbone (coccyx). This muscle forms the floor of the pelvic cavity and supports the pelvic organs.
Like any muscle, it functions at its best when it’s exercised regularly, and maintaining a strong pelvic floor muscle has significant health benefits.
Myth debunked! Pelvic floor exercises are not just for women. Men and women both have this muscle, and exercising it can be hugely beneficial for both. Of course, Kegel balls can’t be used by men, but other pelvic floor exercises are available.
For women, exercising the pelvic floor can help you reach better and more satisfying orgasms, strengthen your vagina, reduce the pain and trauma of childbirth, and remedy urinary incontinence.
For men, it can alleviate erectile dysfunction and improve ejaculation. For both, it can help prevent general urinal leakage (let’s face it, it happens) and improve your overall core strength.
A note about urinary incontinence and leakage. There’s a lot of stigma around this topic, and it’s a source of humiliation and stress for a lot of people. Despite what you may think, this condition doesn’t only affect new mums and old ladies.
People of all ages commonly experience urine leaks from time to time, and it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Something as innocuous as a sneeze or a laugh can cause a tiny bit of pee to escape, and that’s really common.
The good news is that working your pelvic floor can prevent unexpected leaks and ensure you retain a healthy bladder function long into your dotage.
How to do Kegel exercises
Pelvic floor exercises are commonly referred to as Kegel exercises, named after American gynaecologist Arnold Kegel, who first described them in 1948.
You can start exercising your pelvic floor at any age, and at any stage of your life. It’s not only for women who have given birth or are entering old age. There are huge benefits to performing these exercises regularly over the course of your life.
First of all, you need to identify the muscles you want to target. The best way to do this is to briefly stop the flow of pee when you go to the toilet. The muscle doing the work is your pelvic floor.
Important! Don’t hold your pee long, and don’t make a habit of holding in your pee, as this can damage your bladder and result in urine tract infections.
Now that you know what the muscle feels like when it’s activated, you can activate it yourself. Sit comfortably and squeeze the muscle, as if you are holding in pee or wind. It can help to exhale as you squeeze. Hold the squeeze for 3-10 seconds, then relax.
If you’re not sure if you’re squeezing right, gently insert a finger inside your vagina and squeeze. You should feel a lifting and contraction around your finger.
As your pelvic floor muscle gets stronger, you can add more reps. If you’re a real fitness junkie, there are some more advanced techniques you can try. Be careful not to overdo it, as it’s possible to pull this muscle just like any other! I recommend no more than 3 sets a day.
Pelvic floor trainer Elaine Miller runs classes for women to help them strengthen their pelvic floor after childbirth. You can listen to her tips on performing these exercises correctly here [NSFW audio]. Some women have reported results after just two weeks of regular exercise. That’s what I call gains!
Sounds easy, right? There’s even an app to help you do it. Yet, despite being so simple, few of us manage to perform pelvic floor exercises regularly.
How Kegel balls can help
One of the main reasons why people don’t work out their pelvic floor is simply that they forget. It’s just not something that most of us have on our minds throughout the day! Although effective exercises will only take up a few minutes of your time, fitting them into a routine so that you remember to do them every day is a challenge.
Even if you do remember, the exercise required is so small and subtle that it’s easy to get distracted or give up because it feels like you’re not really doing much.
Kegel balls can help because they actively make you think about, and engage, your pelvic floor. Once inserted, your pubococcygeus must activate in order to hold the ball inside your vagina. You can use them whilst doing your pelvic floor exercises, or you can just wear them around the house to passively work out your pelvic floor while you’re doing other things.
For some women, exercises alone are not enough to completely solve their urinary incontinence problems. In this instance, using Kegel balls can help, because they make the exercise more intense and therefore the benefits are increased.
How to use Kegel balls
Kegel balls are really easy to use. If you’re used to using tampons, menstrual cups or sex toys that go inside you, you will be familiar with this process. If this is new to you, don’t be anxious. Just follow my step-by-step guide.
- Apply a water-based lubricant all over the Kegel balls. You can apply lubricant around your vaginal entrance too. It’s important to use a water-based lubricant. A silicone-based lubricant will react with the silicone of the Kegel balls, and an oil-based lubricant can cause thrush.
- Lie down and relax. Get in a comfortable position. I recommend going spread-eagle for your first try. Alternatively, you can squat down if you find this easier.
- If you have a single-ball Kegel, slowly insert it until it’s fully inside you. If you have a dual-ball Kegel, insert the first ball, then the second, until they’re both comfortably inside. Ensure the tail remains outside. Only insert one set of balls at a time!
- Tighten your pelvic floor muscles to hold the balls in place.
- If you can feel the balls at the entrance to your vagina, you need to push them further inside. There will be a spot where they are most comfortable.
- You’re now ready to do your Kegel exercises, have some fun, or just get on with your day.
The feeling of having Kegel balls inside you can vary from person to person. They should feel secure, and not like they’re about to fall out. If you’re struggling to keep them in, try a lighter, larger ball. You may feel a light tingly sensation, which will intensify with movement. It may feel a little like you need to pee.
If you’re nervous or curious about using Kegel balls and are looking for some first-hand experience, check out this frank and funny video from sex vlogger Hannah Witton [NSFW video].
Removing Kegel balls
What goes up must come down, right? Fortunately, removing your Kegel balls is just as easy as putting them in.
- Get back into your comfy position.
- Add more lube around your vaginal opening (if you feel you need it).
- Gently pull on the tail until the Kegel balls slide out.
- If you’re having trouble getting the balls out, don’t panic! Try pushing (bearing down), jiggling, coughing or jumping up and down. This should help coax them out, even if it’s not the most dignified of processes.
- Clean your Kegel balls after each use.
Making Kegels Sexy
So far, none of this sounds particularly sexy, I know. But working your pelvic floor can help you reach new heights of sexual pleasure. Your pubococcygeus contracts during orgasm, so the stronger it is, the stronger your orgasms will be.
On top of this, simply using Kegel balls can be a hugely stimulating experience for many people, and you can incorporate them into your sex life easily. They’re an orgasm and a workout all in one!
Your Kegel experience doesn’t have to be solo. You can ask your partner to help insert and remove them (as long as they are gentle), and this can become an exciting part of your sex together. Here are some things to try solo or with a partner.
- Gentle spanking. Once the Kegel balls are inserted, lie down on your stomach and have your partner gently spank your bum. The movement will cause your Kegel balls to jiggle pleasurably inside you.
- Combine with clitoral stimulation. With the Kegel balls inside, gently rub your clitoris with your fingers, or use a wand vibrator. The feeling of something inside you can increase the intensity of your clitoral orgasm.
- Use them for foreplay. Stimulate yourself and your partner by slipping your Kegel balls inside before you go out on a date, or as you’re getting in the mood. The longer you leave your Kegels in, the more aroused you will become.
- Combine with anal play. With the Kegel balls inside your vagina, have your partner penetrate you anally. The pressure of the anal penetration will push the Kegel balls against your G-spot, resulting in intense orgasms. (Remember to never put the Kegel balls themselves in your bottom! They’re not designed for this and it can be dangerous.)
Important! Just remember to remove your Kegel balls before putting anything else inside your vagina.
What Kegel balls should I buy?
I recommend trying Satisfyer Balls. These dual-ball Kegel balls come in three different sizes and weights to suit all levels of strength and experience. They’re made from smooth, skin-friendly silicone, which makes them pleasurable to use and quick to clean. The tail is strong and looped, so you can grab it for easy removal.
Satisfyer balls are available to buy as a set of three from our website for £18.69 (reduced from £24.95), and are included in our tantalizing Ladies’ Solo Box (along with a selection of other exciting goodies).
I hope you enjoy exploring the opportunities and benefits of Kegel balls. Remember, they don’t just feel great, they’re good for you too! Why not get in touch to share your experiences? I’d love to hear from you.